Written by PLS on August 25th, 2008
I’ve learned…
that all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to them. That no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. That its not what you have in your life, but who you have that really matters. That it takes years to build up trust and only seconds to destroy it. That you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes but after that you better know something. That we are responsible for what we do no matter how we feel. That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up. That you don’t need to change you just need to be completed. That you can do something in an instant that can give you a heartache for life. That its taking me a long time to become the person i want to be. That sometimes when i’m angry, I have the right to be but it doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
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Written by PLS on August 20th, 2008
Though for me it was love at first sight.
When she found out I was a poet,
She asked, “what kind do you write?”
My reciting seemed to delight her
“Love poems, mostly,” I told her
While we walked alone in the park
Love’s fever became even warmer
As two shadows embraced in the dark
I’ll always remember when first we met
I whispered a poem in her ear.
Ever since then how happy I’ve been
And other women I’ve no need to be near.
They say that poets are divine
Though my wife would argue, that’s not true!
For, whenever I lose my direction,
It’s she who tells me what to do.
Written by PLS on August 13th, 2008
In today’s modern age, men and women are in pursuit of making money more than ever. Adults are taking longer to build satisfying careers, purchase homes, and start families. Putting off long term commitments.
Unfortunately, one thing that has yet to evolve with this new age - is a woman’s biological make-up. Our eggs gow older with each passing year. So do we have a right to be concerned when our boyfriends are not ready to commit to happily ever after?
Although it seems in Hollywood, that getting married is the new “dating”, it’s not that way in the real world. Perhaps it is a matter of economics, or maybe that’s an easy excuse to use when they are just afraid of commitment.
According to one source, “Most men like want to achieve some sort of career success before they commit to marriage. How are you going to take care of a family if you can’t even take care of yourself. Even if the wife works, being able to financially take care of them with or without their income is very important to most men I know.”
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Written by PLS on August 7th, 2008
Written by PLS on August 7th, 2008
Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top 10 reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.
So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Aparrently not always.
Here are the top 10 reasons why men cheat:
1. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.
2. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don’t feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex any more and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There’s nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.
3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.
4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.
5. He’s fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.
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Written by PLS on August 7th, 2008
Unfortunately, it is just a simple “no” when a married man responds to a query about his marital status during chatting on the internet. The internet is promoting the idea that people can go online searching for a date and a perfect life partner. Among them, some are married men who are interested in an affair. No matter how perfect these affair seekers may seem, stay away from them. No one wants to get passionate with a married man. And if you do so then you will always remain the second option for him and you’re wrecking a family. Here are some tips to identify the married men from the bachelors indirectly without letting them know.
1. Pictures – married men do not want to be caught online looking for another lady in their life. They will post something very strange or they would just e-mail their photos to you directly. By following this way they will be able to conceal the fact that they are married. Bachelors on the other hand will proudly post their picture to let the ladies know they are there and looking for someone in their life.
2. Information Sharing – this is probably the most obvious sign of them all. These guys will ask you about your personal but will not share their own personal information. They will be unfair in this aspect and will play with words and try to avoid such questions. They will ask you for your phone number but they will not give their own phone number. If you come across such traits or signs then avoid and forget about them. Even if they are not married, surely they are someone dangerous and so it is better to avoid them.
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Written by PLS on August 7th, 2008
Did you ever notice how someone who was an “okay” guy in the beginning began changing and somehow down the road lost interest in the relationship? In the beginning the romance steadily climbed and after a couple of months reached its maximum intensity, but then suddenly hit a plateau, then it was downhill from that day on.
Loving then losing the man you thought loved you have always been a mystery. And when this new boyfriend comes along you tell him immediately the things you like and do not like because you wanted to be “honest” from day one. What happened in the past shouldn’t happen again, so you tell your new man the right way to show his love, and everything would be wonderful from the very beginning, right?
Sorry, but no. It doesn’t work that way.
A lot of women automatically think that she needs to “educate” their men and “teach” him how he should love her. Or you could simply be the woman that he loves. Honestly, you can’t teach and educate your man just to get the change that you want to find in him. In other words, you can’t be both a teacher and a lover.
For a man to be inspired to change, he needs to look up to someone he admires and tries to emulate. Only then can he change for the better, but remember that he won’t be changing for you. He’ll be changing for his sake.
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Written by PLS on August 7th, 2008
Emotional infidelity occurs when you or your partner become emotionally connected with someone outside your relationship, either in person or on the Internet.
How dangerous to a marriage or committed relationship is emotional infidelity?
One way of looking at emotional infidelity is that it is very dangerous, because it not only takes away time and energy from the marriage, but it can lead to sexual infidelity and possibly to the end of marriage.
Another way of looking at it is that it is a symptom of problems that already exist within a marriage. My experience with the couples that I work with is that, when the primary relationship is not emotionally and physically intimate, each person may be vulnerable to a form infidelity - either emotional and/or physical. Rather than blaming the affair for the problems, why not address the real problem?
Emotional affairs are compelling because it is so easy to be close with someone with whom you have no shared responsibility - no money issues, no children, no chores. It is easy to share your deepest feelings with someone with whom you have no conflict. It is easy to get the good feelings that you get when someone who doesn’t live with you and doesn’t see all your issues thinks you are wonderful. But it is a cop-out - an easy way out of dealing with the real issues at hand. And if this affair does lead to a break up of your marriage and into a new permanent relationship, the chances are you will end up with the same problems! So why waste your time? Why not deal with the problems now?
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Written by PLS on August 2nd, 2008
Long distance relationships are no longer unusual in today’s society. In fact, they’re almost the norm! Internet dating, career relocation and higher education needs have created a worldwide singles scene for today’s savvy single. These days, it’s possible your girlfriend or boyfriend lives across the country - or even across the world!
Unfortunately, maintaining a long distance relationship isn’t always easy. The lack of private time together - coupled with different environments and experiences - can stress even the most loving of relationships. Fortunately, there are some easy ways to keep the spark alive when your lover is miles away.
Use technology! E-mail, text messages and instant messaging are simple ways to “touch base” regularly without the time (and long distance bill!) of a phone call. A quick note to tell your lover that you’re thinking of him/her can be enough to keep the fires burning.
Go old-fashioned! Sure, technology is easy and convenient. But there’s nothing like an old-fashioned letter to really touch the heart of the one you love. Since you have plenty of time to think about the words you want to say, your letter should be both heartfelt and meaningful. Use elegant stationary to make it even more special.
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Written by PLS on July 31st, 2008
I sit at the silent
banquet table
and peer out
into the open
darkness
at your distant
walls
Across the screech
of night birds
beyond the still
trees
rises you citadel
surrounded by sleep
While I walk
the invisible
corridors
of your heart
searching
for a passageway
to slip
by the guards
Poetry!
A key turns
slowly
in the lock
But I will not steal
into your bedchamber
and take you
I will leave
the door open
and see if it is locked
tomorrow
I will dream
of your ankles
in red shoes
and the corner
of your lips
when you
smile
and the distant
look
in your eyes
when I touch
nerves
you wished
severed
but are not
What will you dream
in your citadel
knowing a foreign army
is camped
outside your walls
I will build bookshelves
not hollow
horses
I will befriend
your dogs
and read your books
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