Perfect Love Stories

Human nature is such an amazing thing. We can’t help how we feel about things whether it be physical or spiritual. If you think about it we are quite judgmentive with everything we come in contact with or encounter in this life time. We expect things to be a certain way, and if it doesn’t go the way we had originally planned, then we throw tantrums. We are selfish creatures.

This leads us to relationships. Why and how do they happen? Why is it when we look at men or women of the opposite sex we either melt or cringe? It can be solely a physical attraction or personality. Whatever the traits they cause us to fall in love with the opposite sex. Is it really love though?

God created us to be dependent on each other through everything. At first you go out on a date to get to know each other. You find that you enjoy each others company and desire to keep seeing one another.

You can’t put a time limit on when someone falls in love. Some fall in love more quickly than others. How do you know when you are falling in love? You just know. You find yourself thinking about the person all the time. When you do your heart skips a beat and you get butterflies. You may break out into cold sweats at just the mention of the individual’s name. Why we react this way is a mystery. Love is such a strong emotion I don’t know where we would be without it. So many out there do not get the chance to fall in love and this to me is so heartbreaking.

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To make a man fall in love with you, you must first fall in love with yourself. How can a man resist a woman who is naturally spontaneous, effortlessly charming and completely charismatic because she is sure of herself and knows exactly what she wants and how to get it? The answer is, if he knows himself and is worthy of you, he cannot and will not.

If you want a man to fall in love with you, then, you must spend some time beautifying not only the nails, hair and makeup, but also the soul, psyche and inner light. Instead of constantly following the leader, strike out on your own and become your own individual beacon, forging your own trail. Find out what makes you happy and then pursue it instead of trying to stay “fashionable and trendy.” Spend time with yourself with no music, tv, cell phone… just some time alone to hear your own thoughts and ponder your own goals and dreams.

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All men have different needs and wants; desires and dreams; goals and aspirations. And although these things can be as diverse as men are individually, I am targeting only one segment of men for this article. I have chosen what I consider the five most important things MARRIED men want to hear.

1. KNOWLEDGE FROM HIM
Inside knowledge, so to speak, is a quality men gain over time, from education, and life experiences. A man wants to know that his wife asks him for help with certain things, because she KNOWS he has the answers. It could be knowledge on anything from doing minor car repair, to accessing websites online. From organizing work appointments, to fixing a child’s swing that has a broken chain. From how to get along with his mom, to how to cook his favorite “family tradition” spaghetti sauce.

2. THAT YOU APPRECIATE HIS HARD WORK
Hearing a wife tell her husband that she appreciates all his hard work is like him learning his favorite sports team just won [whatever] against all odds. It is a heady concoction that goes straight to his ego, ESPECIALLY if he feels unappreciated by friends, family, his boss, etc. Having you not only appreciate what he does, but SAY so, is what every man wants and hopes for.

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There really is a true man of your dreams out there, but he probably won’t come in the package you always anticipated. Almost every woman in the world envisions a tall, muscular man with great hair as her dream man, but more than likely, the real man of our dreams will look more like Kevin James than George Clooney (no offense, Kevin). Sometimes we let the man of our dreams pass us by because we’re so caught up in the package he’s wrapped up in, instead of the heart inside.

I’m happy to say that I’ve been married to the man of my dreams for almost twenty-eight years. He doesn’t look like anyone I ever imagined myself married to back in the days when I was still composing my dream-man-list, and he certainly isn’t as wealthy as the guy I was “supposed” to marry, but what the hay? Our twenty-eight year record speaks for itself. Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. My Micky Rooney looks like Tom Selleck to me.

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last night i had a dream
i met someone amazing
every word, every step
every tough was perfect

he took me places i have never seen
he took me everywhere
the man of my dreams

as perfect a man
as perfect a life
we ended up married
i became his wife

then all of a sudden
it happened so fast
i was awake
and he was gone in a flash

the perfect man
who once treated me like a queen
was just a fantasy
the man of my dreams

I’ve learned…

that all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to them. That no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. That its not what you have in your life, but who you have that really matters. That it takes years to build up trust and only seconds to destroy it. That you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes but after that you better know something. That we are responsible for what we do no matter how we feel. That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up. That you don’t need to change you just need to be completed. That you can do something in an instant that can give you a heartache for life. That its taking me a long time to become the person i want to be. That sometimes when i’m angry, I have the right to be but it doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

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In today’s modern age, men and women are in pursuit of making money more than ever. Adults are taking longer to build satisfying careers, purchase homes, and start families. Putting off long term commitments.

Unfortunately, one thing that has yet to evolve with this new age - is a woman’s biological make-up. Our eggs gow older with each passing year. So do we have a right to be concerned when our boyfriends are not ready to commit to happily ever after?

Although it seems in Hollywood, that getting married is the new “dating”, it’s not that way in the real world. Perhaps it is a matter of economics, or maybe that’s an easy excuse to use when they are just afraid of commitment.

According to one source, “Most men like want to achieve some sort of career success before they commit to marriage. How are you going to take care of a family if you can’t even take care of yourself. Even if the wife works, being able to financially take care of them with or without their income is very important to most men I know.”

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Nice song about what ifs and what could have been

Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top 10 reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Aparrently not always.

Here are the top 10 reasons why men cheat:

1. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.

2. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don’t feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex any more and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There’s nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.

3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.

4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.

5. He’s fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.

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