Crush
You know the crushing-feeling if you have ever gone off the deep-end gaw-gaw for another person. The Crushie places someone on a pedestal, thinking that he or she can do no wrong. There is a sense that there is no chance to ever requite your love for an adored person. You are simply a Pawn in this mental chess game you’re playing by adoring the King or Queen and wishful for any scraps of attention that might be thrown your way. A Crush is not Love, but it certainly is confusing. Having a Crush from a distance is also a safe-love stance. You can safely adore someone from afar and not get hurt.
Obsession / Addictive Love
I hesitate to associate the terms “obsession” or “addiction” with love. This is not Love, it is Control, or probably more likely, Lack-of-Control. Sometimes struggling to maintain or renew bad relationships is simply a bad habit. You can get so caught up in your current situation that you are not able to see a way out. Sadly, we can become comfortable in our difficult relationships because they feel so familiar.
Puppy Love
Puppy Love is so adorable and sweet. This is when two young hearts go pitter-patter for one another. This naive type of love has the smell of fresh Spring air. Puppy Love is a wondrous and unharnessed love that sees no boundaries. We’ve all been there and for anyone who can remember that rush of adrenaline feeling filled with emotion and idealism - it is a cherished memory. Puppy Love is a love that stands apart because it occurs before having experienced the pain of a broken heart, or the agony of a love gone sour.
Star-Crossed Love
Compatibility reports (astrology, numerology, enneagram) can signify the traits, characteristics of the perfect match for you. Do you really think that if it were not for the help of cupid that you could flounder alone for years and never find your soul mate? Aunt Bessie, the family’s eccentric matchmaker, may really know what’s best for you. What? What is all the fuss about having a soul mate anyway? Why don’t Mars and Venus play well together?
Tough Love
Tough Love is not really a type of love, but a strong path that is taken to step away from control or desire to help a loved one who has become too dependent on drugs or alcohol. In some cases, no substance abuse is indicated, but an unmotivated person who has been taking advantage of your caring ways needs to kicked to the curb. There is a lesson for both individuals in this Tough Love scenario. The caregiver learns to not be so giving of themselves and will allow the other person space in which to help himself. The dependent one is shown that he needs to take charge of his own life. Tough love can be “sink or swim” and can be heart-wrenching situation to endure. But when the swimmer rises from the depths of his dependence and becomes fully his own person, it is a win-win for both individuals.
Unconditional Love
Perfection! If there ever was a perfect love it would be Unconditional Love. We’ve all heard about Unconditional Love and many of us strive to embrace this type of love. Unconditional Love is a maternal instinct and can occur naturally. But, it is also natural to get side-tracked with our judgments, expectations, and good intentions. You don’t have to approve of or agree with someone’s life choices to love him or her unconditionally. Try it. Unconditional Love is the Ultimate!
