Perfect Love Stories

There’s seldom a woman who can tolerate her cheater hubby. So, before you catch him red handed, we can offer you some of the warning signs:

A cheater, in the initial stages of his affair, is bound to have guilty feelings in his mind. So, he suddenly becomes more dutiful in fulfilling the requirements of his spouse. If your husband has started showing unnecessary attention towards you, then you have reasons to suspect that he is on his way to have an extramarital affair.

To diminish his guilty feelings, he starts giving you costly gifts. You can call these presents ‘guilt gifts’.

If you study your partner minutely, then you will surely stumble upon certain changes in his behavior and attitude. ‘He is not the same as he used to be’ – if your instincts say so; then you are in the right track.

As his affair grows, you turn into a disgusting object in his eyes. He just looks for chances to pick up a fight with you and walks out of home. These sorts of actions are nothing but creating opportunities for meeting his lover.

He is talking about the probability of ending your relationship. When you two start discussing about your future, he is the one to point out all the negative aspects.

You are observing frequent mood-swings in his behavior. As if he has just got escape from the prison, he looks cheerful when he’s leaving for office, but returns home with a gloomy face.

If your partner is thinking of running both his relationships simultaneously, he will surely face problems from both ends and once you read his face, it will show he is not quite at ease with himself.

You two are staying under the same roof and sharing the same bed, but the zing is missing somewhere. Previously, he used to chat with you for long hours, but now the level of interaction has dipped drastically.

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Forgive! Let go and release. Forgiving is a very real and stressful situation. Anytime another has wronged you , it is hard to just forgive and let things be over. Everyone is out for that sweet revenge. This is part of human nature.

Forgiving others is very hard. This is only part of the problem. Sometimes it is just as hard for people to forgive themselves for something they have done wrong. This often happens in relationships. Begging for forgiveness can be very complicated and involves a lot of humanity and wisdom. Without forgiveness there can never be a lasting love.

It is therefore important, for those who care about lasting relationships to better comprehend the motions of forgiveness. Forgiveness takes an act of will power. If you have any intention of living together, forgiveness is strongly recommended.

Anytime one falls in love they become very vulnerable. If you are to be forgiven, you are required to do the same. You are never safe from forgiveness in a relationship. When entering a relationship one brings a lot of past baggage. There are various experiences that have accumulated from the past. You enter into this relationship open for disappointment and hurt. Living in the shadow of fear from your past can cause serious obstruction.

When anyone is wronged, they always look to blame the other. You feel innocent and want revenge. Only one believes that justice has been done when they can hurt the ones that have hurt them. Many people expect others to suffer a lifetime for the wrong they have caused them. Only then does one consider the slate being wiped clear. How many times have you accomplished finding revenge only to find yourself alone and unfulfilled? What satisfaction is there to gain in causing others to suffer?

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Ultimately everyone is searching for his or her soul mate. However, when searching for true love will you know it when you find it? People often disagree about what love is or what the word love truly means. Our learned or conceived ideas about love and the many features and concepts we apply to love are endless.
For example, there is no proof that love at first sight exists. Perhaps it’s better to state there is attraction at first sight and such attraction may develop into love given the proper momentum and direction as the relationship unfolds.

There is only one true happiness in life, to love and be loved. But, once again, what is love?
Can love be classified as a strong affection for another person arising out of kinship or personal ties? Is it the dictionary’s description of a warm attachment, devotion, admiration, loyalty, and benevolent concern for the good of another?

How can a person identify love or know when they have found that one true love? It is said that pure loves comes, not from the heart, but from the soul. Of course there are physical and emotional aspects of love that are triggered by the development of a loving relationship. Have you ever felt your heart beating rapidly or butterflies in the bottom of your stomach when you notice that certain person? That moment when you kiss that special person, does everything around you become hazy and the only thing in focus is you and that person?

When you realize that this wonderful person is the only one you want to be with for the rest of eternity, does your heart fill with joy, do you want to laugh and cry, are you suddenly fearful that this feeling will go away? Can you see heaven in their smile? Are you completely swept away? Do you become insanely protective, filled with yearning, hope, and nervous anxiety all at the same time? How should you feel when you are with this special person? Are you proud to be with them and do they take pride in being with you? When your hands join as one do you feel a thousand sensations; a tingling that will not disappear?

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Crushes are known to be the easy doorway into the planet of strong emotions and affairs, without having much of the distressing hazard involved in really dating someone. A crush more truly means to admire someone from far-off. It’s a very cute feeling which deters obligation of any sort. You actually enjoy the little spring of emotion that grows in your heart and it is indeed an incredibly powerful feeling that might take you to the crest of sheer obsession.

This adorable feeling of crush is usually experienced on people who are very unlikely to fall for a relationship with you. Often observed among the teenagers, crushes can be on anyone and at anywhere. Teachers, actors, band members, scout leaders or any one of higher authority can be your crush. You can also have crush on your class mate. We all have crushes in our life and this is something we look back on with great fondness.

Crushes usually happens when you meet someone for the first time and there is some special quality in the person which draws your attention so much that you get attracted to him or her drastically. When crushes occur, you tend to think about the person day or night where there may be the least possibility for a passionate relation between you two. But if the crush is a both sided one then it might get transformed into love with the consent of duo. Crushes can happen at any age and it can also crop up in your heart even if you are into a romance already.

You are thrilled when they are close to you and feel wretched when they are away. You become so impatient that you always want to tell the person how much you like him or her but are scared at the same time of his or her rebuff. A hasty heartbeat and clammy palms are the main indication for a person in crush. Sometime out of excess excitement, youngsters start drooling when they get in touch with their crush.

At the beginning, it might seem very hard to settle out things in one’s mind and especially in one’s heart but within few weeks or few months everything will even out and soon you will learn to bring your emotion under control. A crush if dealt in an understanding manner, eventually takes the form of a more meaningful bond; it can be an everlasting friendship or a romance.

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Very few people actually have the courage to say sorry. Actually, its not about the sense of etiquette and manners but one really needs to be courageous to say sorry. And when it comes to the love relationships, then it almost becomes an ordeal to say sorry to your sweetheart. Perhaps it was not your fault but in spite of that often your partner is awaiting to hear this sacred word from you.

If it is your fault, then make up your mind that you have to say sorry forgetting all your self respect. In fact once you have said sorry, your self respect will be innate in front of your lover. Most of the times we do the stupidest acts and expect others to come and apologize. Our silly ego never let us stoop our heads, whatever the fault is. This is where we are lagging behind from them who does not hesitate to say sorry.

While being in love many a stupid things happen. We forget our anniversaries, birth dates of our partners, forget their favorite food and perfume, their favorite color, we forget to reach at time on date, we often say loads of gibberish to them and expect a runner applause. Sometimes our stupidity reaches to its height and we behave utterly nonsense in case of eulogizing as well as rectifying their deeds. But we never feel to say sorry to others because of these. We do not find any mistakes done but what actually is been done is the accidental break-ups. Loving somebody is not a hard job but continuing this relationship is a challenge. Small mistakes like these often crate an unexpected disaster and our heart breaks in no time.

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Have you ever met someone who you thought is worth your time and then you realized it was a mistake? Yep, I know. You feel so bad about it, right? Don’t worry about it. They are many people out there who make the same mistake over and over again. Either way, you can’t blame them for trying to find a special someone. People weave through all the bad ones in order to get to the good ones. In order to do that, you should look for signs that will make you realize that this person is worth your time. For instance:

1) Talk is cheap. They have to prove what they say. There are many people out there that will just not do what they say. If all they do is talk the talk and not walk the walk, then move on.

2) Strong Chemistry. If you have a strong bond with each other from the start, follow your intuition and go with the flow.

3) Past relationships. I know most people don’t like to mention their past relationships, but this is a good way to know the person’s past behaviors.

Overall, it varies for people from time to time. If you see those simple signs, you will know that this person is worth your time.

Loveworth

Do you ever ask yourself the question, “Why do women break up with men?” Time and time again you will hear a man make the comment that his girlfriend or wife just broke up with him. And you’ll question why, because he treated her fantastic and actually appeared to worship her.

Did you ever hear that line “Nice guys finish last?” Well, there is a small amount of truth to that statement. Many adult females are not as self assured as they might be and any lady who is a little bit insecure will sometimes inquire why a really great guy would want her. So, if you appear to be head over heals in love with her, she will wonder what is wrong with you.

Are all women like this? Nope, of course not! Many women have the self confidence to know what they want in a guy and they’ll expect to be treated good or they’ll get out of the relationship. But there are many women who tend to use the “grass is always greener” thought process. The finest guy for them is the guy just around a nook.

So, what do you do if a woman breaks up with you for apparently no reason at all?

The 1st thing you WON’T do is call her, text her or go visit her. She apparently took you for granted while you were together so let her have some time to miss you.

Try not to act like you’re desolate, but alternatively get back out in the world. Go out with acquaintances, go on dates if you like. Actually, dating is effective because you just might find a girl out there who has the self assurance to prize what you offer up.

The real question you need to consider is if you genuinely want to be in a relationship with an insecure woman? Think about it. Is she genuinely worth it? If you absolutely think she’s the one for you, then you need to give her a lot of time and space to grow up. Repairing a relationship is always possible if the trust is still there.

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The Married Man / Single Woman Syndrome

So you are young, single, attractive and no doubt have many eligible men pursuing you. Be ready to cut my head off but I truly believe the problem with most these men is that if they aren’t already married, there is probably something wrong with them. Experts claim that there are so many perfectly eligible single guys out there buthave they dated any of these men they are piling into the eligible pool?

Here are some problems my “total package” friends and I have come across:

No manners (blatant stuff you just can’t ignore.taking calls during your date, etc)
Insensitive (my ex is crazy, you don’t mind if I drink 5 beers at lunch, right?)
Baggage (I’m going through a custody battle right now, I have to live with my parents for the time being, it’s only temporary)
Chauvinism ( You’re not voting for Hillary, right? You’re not one of those kinda women that, etc.)
Egotism (Calling you all the time like YOU have nothing better to do than jump every time they call & GOD FORBID you may be smart and dating others!)
Unavailable ( I’m just waiting for the right person, I don’t believe in marriage or won’t do it again, I like to keep my options open, I’m a workaholic, etc)
Casanova (I’m never attracted to anyone else when I’m in a relationship, you’re so gorgeous it hurts, I never cheat, do you? My last girlfriend did drugs, cheated, and used me)
Desperate (they barely know you but know they want to be with you I mean, you’re great & you know it but the feeling you could probably have a ring on your finger in a month doesn’t make you feel too special, does it?)
Selfish (talk most of the time, not really too concerned with your beliefs, your goals, your job, etc.these types assume whatever you think now will be converted later)

Sound familiar? After exhausting your time and energy treading water in that eligibility pool you begin to wonder if your standards are too high or if you’ve watched too many romance movies. You talk to your other friends and laugh about how you could write a book about all your common dating experiences and may even come to the conclusion that all these guys are just “immature” and maybe older men are the answer.

You find yourself at that point where you have no real motivation to continue treading water in the same pool and need some different results because you still have that glimmer of hope that what those experts say is true. Are you now cynical, bored, suspicious, and somewhat defeated? Your married friends might think so but more importantly, what you really are is ripe pickings for a married man.

Don’t believe me? Here is how the scenario plays out: A married man who has become routine in his duties as a father, husband, and provider at some point decides he wants a little sexual excitement and his ego fed. It is impossible for his wife to provide him the same type of attention she once did and not even realistic (the demands of kids, etc).

If you are getting angry with me, good, keep reading!

However the two of you come across one another, it is almost going to be an instant attraction and that surreal feeling like you really “understand each other”.

Is this feeling real? Yes, and it’s intense!

Would you feel this way if he weren’t married and appropriate for you? NO! (I’ll explain later)

The script unfolds predictably where you become a special friend and the two of you have harmless lunches, coffee, etc At this point you may be asking your friends what they think because nothing physical has happened. It’s really simple. This is stage one of the seduction process.

How are you seducing one another?

He listens to every word you say, is a gentleman, pays for everything, considers your feelings, believes in you and your goals, compliments you, loves that your smart and feisty, seems in awe that you are spending time with him, and respects your time and what you have to say. In other words, here is a man that seems to RECOGNIZE YOUR WORTH.

You are in awe of him for his dedication to his career accomplishments, his kids, and maybe even his wife. You respect him for the sacrifices he has made and you really listen to him and express your admiration. You are probably even more open and flirtatious with this man because it has a great affect on him and he doesn’t react with desperation/eagerness. For him, here is a woman that FEEDS HIS EGO and is SEXUALLY STIMULATING.

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Human nature is such an amazing thing. We can’t help how we feel about things whether it be physical or spiritual. If you think about it we are quite judgmentive with everything we come in contact with or encounter in this life time. We expect things to be a certain way, and if it doesn’t go the way we had originally planned, then we throw tantrums. We are selfish creatures.

This leads us to relationships. Why and how do they happen? Why is it when we look at men or women of the opposite sex we either melt or cringe? It can be solely a physical attraction or personality. Whatever the traits they cause us to fall in love with the opposite sex. Is it really love though?

God created us to be dependent on each other through everything. At first you go out on a date to get to know each other. You find that you enjoy each others company and desire to keep seeing one another.

You can’t put a time limit on when someone falls in love. Some fall in love more quickly than others. How do you know when you are falling in love? You just know. You find yourself thinking about the person all the time. When you do your heart skips a beat and you get butterflies. You may break out into cold sweats at just the mention of the individual’s name. Why we react this way is a mystery. Love is such a strong emotion I don’t know where we would be without it. So many out there do not get the chance to fall in love and this to me is so heartbreaking.

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To make a man fall in love with you, you must first fall in love with yourself. How can a man resist a woman who is naturally spontaneous, effortlessly charming and completely charismatic because she is sure of herself and knows exactly what she wants and how to get it? The answer is, if he knows himself and is worthy of you, he cannot and will not.

If you want a man to fall in love with you, then, you must spend some time beautifying not only the nails, hair and makeup, but also the soul, psyche and inner light. Instead of constantly following the leader, strike out on your own and become your own individual beacon, forging your own trail. Find out what makes you happy and then pursue it instead of trying to stay “fashionable and trendy.” Spend time with yourself with no music, tv, cell phone… just some time alone to hear your own thoughts and ponder your own goals and dreams.

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