The Role Of Forgiving
Forgive! Let go and release. Forgiving is a very real and stressful situation. Anytime another has wronged you , it is hard to just forgive and let things be over. Everyone is out for that sweet revenge. This is part of human nature.
Forgiving others is very hard. This is only part of the problem. Sometimes it is just as hard for people to forgive themselves for something they have done wrong. This often happens in relationships. Begging for forgiveness can be very complicated and involves a lot of humanity and wisdom. Without forgiveness there can never be a lasting love.
It is therefore important, for those who care about lasting relationships to better comprehend the motions of forgiveness. Forgiveness takes an act of will power. If you have any intention of living together, forgiveness is strongly recommended.
Anytime one falls in love they become very vulnerable. If you are to be forgiven, you are required to do the same. You are never safe from forgiveness in a relationship. When entering a relationship one brings a lot of past baggage. There are various experiences that have accumulated from the past. You enter into this relationship open for disappointment and hurt. Living in the shadow of fear from your past can cause serious obstruction.
When anyone is wronged, they always look to blame the other. You feel innocent and want revenge. Only one believes that justice has been done when they can hurt the ones that have hurt them. Many people expect others to suffer a lifetime for the wrong they have caused them. Only then does one consider the slate being wiped clear. How many times have you accomplished finding revenge only to find yourself alone and unfulfilled? What satisfaction is there to gain in causing others to suffer?
Of course, forgiveness is never an easy thing. It always seems simpler to escape from the hurt. Rather than dealing with it, people find ways to blame; accuse; condemn, and exclude. Forgiveness will never be realized if there are continuous accusation, and fault finding.
Only when you can look upon the wrongdoers as yourself can one begin to forgive. Often you may find yourself in a divided world of good and bad. We typically only claim the good side; however, no one is perfect on this planet. You have to be able to identify with the other person to start forgiveness.
The action of forgiveness is repeated time and time again in loving relationships. Humans forgive because of the love one shares for others and in realizing that they aren’t perfect either. Everyone continues to love those that hurt him or her from time to time because they are worthwhile human beings, open to the possibilities of change.
Love is the single source of forgiveness. In love you can recognize the wrongdoer as a person also. Anytime wrong is done, it should be considered the past and nothing could be done about it. Emotional pain is hurt that few humans can escape. Forgiveness is an unconditioned treasure of love. This doesn’t mean that you will be forgiven if or when something occurs; it means that you will be forgiven because it must be done. In order to live a lasting life one must learn to forgive.
As long as one lives in the shadow of hurt, real forgiveness hasn’t taken place. Haven’t you ever heard,“ that to forgive and not forget is like burying a hatchet and leaving the handle sticking out.” Forgetting doesn’t mean the wrong has been condoned; it merely suggests that the action done is now in the past and for future sake it should be released to resume a normal life.
Real forgiveness is one of the highest acts of human behavior. Remember to, ”Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Judge not. It is the forgiver that is freed in forgiving. We must let go of jealousy.
Michelle Green
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