Five Mistakes Women Make In Bed
Hot - or hopeless? Find out how you rate as a lover and pray you’re not guilty of any of these…
1. We don’t know enough about sex – or his bits.
‘She goes all giggly and girly whenever I try to talk to her about how to touch and excite me. She thinks it’s cute but I find it insulting that not only wouldn’t she have the first clue about how my penis works, she’s got no interest in finding out.’
He’s right – you do need to know some basic anatomy. While it’s true that what worked with Barry won’t necessarily work with Brian, our genitals are all wired up the same way and most of us have the same hot spots. Sex is a bit like typing. We can all sit down in front of a computer keyboard and bash something out using two fingers. But you’re never going to be as good as the person who uses 10 and took the touch-typing course. Buy a good sex book and study it. Once you’ve got the basic biology figured, combine it with ‘field research’ – touching and testing the areas that are meant to feel good when stimulated – and you’re bound to be a better lover than the girl who’s stuck at the point-and-giggle-at-his-dangly-bits stage.
2. We expect men to be mind-readers.
‘I asked if she’d had an orgasm and she said no. I asked her why and she said ‘Because I felt like oral sex and you didn’t give me any. If you really loved me, you’d have known that was what I wanted’.
Sorry girls but again, I’m on his side. Expecting your lover to second-guess your every desire is rubbish. Just because someone knows you well and wants to please you, doesn’t mean they suddenly have access to a crystal ball. Plenty of women think their lover comes equipped with an amazing radar which allows him to know exactly what she’s in the mood for at that exact moment with absolutely no input from her. Well, speak up or forever lie back and think of England.
