Perfect Love Stories

Crush

You know the crushing-feeling if you have ever gone off the deep-end gaw-gaw for another person. The Crushie places someone on a pedestal, thinking that he or she can do no wrong. There is a sense that there is no chance to ever requite your love for an adored person. You are simply a Pawn in this mental chess game you’re playing by adoring the King or Queen and wishful for any scraps of attention that might be thrown your way. A Crush is not Love, but it certainly is confusing. Having a Crush from a distance is also a safe-love stance. You can safely adore someone from afar and not get hurt.

Obsession / Addictive Love

I hesitate to associate the terms “obsession” or “addiction” with love. This is not Love, it is Control, or probably more likely, Lack-of-Control. Sometimes struggling to maintain or renew bad relationships is simply a bad habit. You can get so caught up in your current situation that you are not able to see a way out. Sadly, we can become comfortable in our difficult relationships because they feel so familiar.

Puppy Love

Puppy Love is so adorable and sweet. This is when two young hearts go pitter-patter for one another. This naive type of love has the smell of fresh Spring air. Puppy Love is a wondrous and unharnessed love that sees no boundaries. We’ve all been there and for anyone who can remember that rush of adrenaline feeling filled with emotion and idealism - it is a cherished memory. Puppy Love is a love that stands apart because it occurs before having experienced the pain of a broken heart, or the agony of a love gone sour.

Star-Crossed Love

Compatibility reports (astrology, numerology, enneagram) can signify the traits, characteristics of the perfect match for you. Do you really think that if it were not for the help of cupid that you could flounder alone for years and never find your soul mate? Aunt Bessie, the family’s eccentric matchmaker, may really know what’s best for you. What? What is all the fuss about having a soul mate anyway? Why don’t Mars and Venus play well together?

Tough Love

Tough Love is not really a type of love, but a strong path that is taken to step away from control or desire to help a loved one who has become too dependent on drugs or alcohol. In some cases, no substance abuse is indicated, but an unmotivated person who has been taking advantage of your caring ways needs to kicked to the curb. There is a lesson for both individuals in this Tough Love scenario. The caregiver learns to not be so giving of themselves and will allow the other person space in which to help himself. The dependent one is shown that he needs to take charge of his own life. Tough love can be “sink or swim” and can be heart-wrenching situation to endure. But when the swimmer rises from the depths of his dependence and becomes fully his own person, it is a win-win for both individuals.

Unconditional Love

Perfection! If there ever was a perfect love it would be Unconditional Love. We’ve all heard about Unconditional Love and many of us strive to embrace this type of love. Unconditional Love is a maternal instinct and can occur naturally. But, it is also natural to get side-tracked with our judgments, expectations, and good intentions. You don’t have to approve of or agree with someone’s life choices to love him or her unconditionally. Try it. Unconditional Love is the Ultimate!

Ready for a romantic evening with your spouse? Put the kids to bed early and get ready to relax. While your husband is watching the news after dinner fill the bathtub with hot water, lots of bubbles, and some rose scented oil and rose petals. use about 15 white candles all over the bathroom. Especially in front of the mirrors, the flicker from the candles in the mirror gives a nice romantic glow. Put a small table next to the bathtub. On the table put a tray with two glasses, some fresh fruit, and some champaign  or sparkling grape juice.  Now go  get your husband and lead him by the hand to your own private paradise. Relax together in the warm water feeding each other the fresh fruit and sipping champaign. You will be so relaxed you will have a wonderful evening together. Giving each other a bath can be a sensual heavenly experience.

Here’s what you’ll need to make the experience a perfect one:

Preciously fragranced room sprays, body mists, bath oils, massage oils, and other natural aromatics can enhance a romantic evening or add variety and intrigue to your marriage.

Planning in advance for special dates, evenings or other moments can help set the mood for a beautiful and quiet (or lively!) occasion. Putting special thought into all the factets of a beautiful evening will make your partner feel special and appreciated, and will make the event unforgettable in his/her mind. Much, however, can also be said about the benefits and wonders of spontaneous moments. Impromptu moments can rule out including some aromatic practices, but it is also possible to plan ahead for spontaneity. A lovely selection of natural aromatics can be purchased or prepared in advance so that you have them on hand for when the mood strikes. Read on for ideas.

A Word of Caution Before We Get Started…

We are all unique and differ in our appreciation and awareness of the sensory cues around us. At any given moment, we have unique sights, sounds, aromas, tastes and textures all demanding our attention. Some individuals prefer to maintain consistency in their surroundings and have a harder time than others in embracing new sensations. If you are unfamiliar with the preferences, limitations, allergies or possible sensitizations of the individual that has captured your romantic interest, it’s best to play it safe and limit your use of aromatics until you know more. It’s less spontaneous, but it’s caring and safe!

Aphrodisiac/Sensual Essential Oils

An aphrodisiac is generally defined as a substance that enhances or stimulates passion and sexual arousal. Substances, including essential oils, that are considered aphrodisiacs are substances that can help dissipate the physical, psychological or emotional ailments that may interfere with sexual desire or arousal.

Room Fragrancing

If planning a romantic evening at home that begins with dinner, select essential oils and oil blends that will complement the aroma of your meal or other aromas that may be present throughout the evening. Start with light, fresh, energizing aromas and lead to more sultry, exotic blends as the night progresses. Remember that less is more and not to overpower the room. If you or your partner smoke, consider diffusing lemon essential oil or including it in a blend to help rid the smoky odor from the room.

Room Sprays / Room Mists
A quick and easy way to sensually and naturally fragrance a room is to create a room spray in advance. A room spray is especially practical for those beautiful, spontaneous moments where minimal advance planning is the key ingredient.

Candles
Candles are frequently used to make romantic evenings more sensual. They simultaneously delight three of our senses. They tantalize our sight with their soft, flickering light. Fragranced candles heat the aromatics embedded within their wax and disperse the aroma throughout a room. They also generate heat and provide warmth to the skin.

When selecting candles for your most erotic or romantic evenings, choose candles that are fragranced only with essential oils or that are not fragranced at all. If you must use candles that are fragranced with synthetic fragrance oils, select candles that are lightly fragranced with a delicate, mysterious and arousing scent. Although an old addage says “The way to a man’s or woman’s heart is through his/her stomach,” I’d suggest saving your sugar cookie and pumpkin pie candles for holiday entertaining or other fun purposes.

Incense
The term incense is a broad term for perfumed dry aromatics that are burned. Countless forms of incense are available, but most are manufactured using synthetic ingredients. Some incense, most notably incense powders, cones and Japanese incense is available that contains only natural ingredients. Incense, when slowly burned, and when burned in a manner that doesn’t overpower a room can stimulate the senses. Incense, most notably those that include sandalwood, aloeswood, cinnamon, frankincense and sensual woods and herbs can simultaneously ease stress and enhance arousal.

Fresh Flowers
No aroma is purer than the aroma that permeates directly from freshly cut aromatic flowers, herbs and other fragrant botanicals. Create your own fragrant bouquets to complement your passionate evenings.

Rose Petals
Rose petals are not only beautiful, they are delightfully aromatic and velvety soft. They can be sprinkled upon the bed, upon a beautiful tablecloth awaiting a lovely meal, or even sprinkled as a “come hither” path leading your lover to you. Call your local florist or nursery to obtain fresh petals.

A Word About Unpleasant Household Odors
Stale odors, smoke and other unpleasant aromas can be unappealing at any time let alone during your most special occasions. Whenever possible, try to fully eliminate unpleasant odors and don’t just try to mask them. Keep your fridge and garbage cans free of decaying produce, meat stuffs and other smelly items by taking out your trash frequently. If you smoke, try to smoke outside whenever possible. Wash draperies and freshen fabrics regularly. Use a kitchen fan if you cook a lot of meat/fish.

Dinnertime
Select foods that you and your partner like, and that are fun or sensual to eat. Get creative. Foods that have been considered aphrodisiacs for their texture, shape or nutritional value includes oysters, avocados, cocoa (chocolate), asparagus, and strawberries/raspberries.

Bathtime
Using sensual essential oils, create a luxurious bath oil or sensual bath salts  for that next special bath.

Showertime
If you both prefer showering over bathing, you can still enjoy the natural aroma of essential oils during your shower ritual. After turning on the water and allowing it to get hot, sprinkle 2-3 drops of essential oil on the sides of your shower. The oils will disperse into the steam-filled air. Make sure that the surface that you drop the oils on will not become damaged (essential oils are highly concentrated) or stained.

Snacktime
Prepare a beautifully adorned snack plate that includes nourishing bite-size portions of fruit or cheese that you and your partner can serve to on another.

Rose Against Skin
After removing the thorns, gently brush the velvety tip of a long stemmed rose against the nose of your partner, allowing him or her to enjoy the aroma, and then glide the velvety tip across your partner’s skin. The combination of the aroma and feeling as it glides against the skin can be sensual and arousing.

Travel/Vacationing/Spontaneity Amongst the suggestions above are an array of ideas that can be used even when you are away from home or when you don’t have time earlier in the day to prepare. Described above, room mists, personal fragrances, linen sprays, bath oils and massage oils can all be prepared in advance and kept on hand for when the mood strikes. They can also be transported in your luggage (keep carry on luggage restrictions in mind) and kept on hand when you travel.

Music and candles create a mood. When you want to become sexually intimate, you want the mood to be warm and mellow, soft and romantic. Place a few scented candles around the room. If you can place one or two candles in front of a mirror, do so. Watch how the flicker of the candles adds to the seductive view you have of your lover while you are making love. Notice the shadows two lovers create. . . on the sheets. . . on the wall. Carefully choose the music that will most enhance your experience of each other. Select music without words, music that will not distract from the ambiance of the moment.

In my daydreams there is a place in the woods, I always see myself there sitting on a patch of grass talking to the one I love. Sharing our deepest secrets, laughing about things that happen in our daily lives. Cool breeze blowing through my hair. The ice cold water running through my toes. Holding hands and talking of our future together and how wonderful life is going to be. Kissing and holding each other close and wishing this lovely moment would never end. Its begins to rain and we walk in the woods soaking wet, enjoying every drop as it runs down my face. At last the sun appears and we sit on a huge rock and let the sun dry our shivering bodies and laugh, for a few moments in time we returned to our childhood.

You met the girl that might be that special girl, the one you want to take home and meet the family. How do you make that lasting impression? With romance of course. You don’t have to have a lot of money either. One of my favorite ideas is a picnic on the beach at sunset. A nice blanket, picnic basket with some fresh strawberries with chocolate dipping sauce, croissants and some cold fried chicken. Bring a small radio to play some soft romantic music while you eat. Sit on the blanket feeding each other as the sunsets. This is a perfect time for intimate conversations after all you have the whole beach to yourselves. when you finished eating take a long walk along the waters edge hand in hand. For those of you not lucky enough to live by the ocean a lake or a stream works just as well. Sitting by the waters edge with your feet in laughing and talking. You can even take a romantic swim.

Most relationships don’t know how to keep romance alive and this is why couples get bored with each other. After couples get married and the kids come along most couples forget about their own needs. You should make a few hours of alone time each day or once a week go out and have some fun. We all love our kids but its a fact that we need time alone too especially those woman who have decided to stay at home and raise the kids and don’t get out of the house much. If you can’t afford a baby sitter make a nice romantic evening at home. Feed the kids early give them a bath and read them a story together. Then you have the rest of the night together. Light the candles and have a nice relaxing dinner. Turn on some music and slow dance together. If you have a porch go outside and dance under the stars. Do what ever it takes it isn’t very hard.

I’ll give you some romantic gift ideas in the next post.